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The other important thing I want to talk about is the idea that another man can be more “dominant” than you.

The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he could beat up competitors.

But ask yourself if those same power are still existing today. Every man with a source of income can survive on his own - if you’re reading this, you probably have an access to your needs like food. You’re all set.

Plus, it’s illegal to just beat people up. My point is, physical strength is pretty much irrelevant in the modern world.

It is always to your loss if you attack another person because the police always win.

If you think about it, you are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU FOR NO REASON!

Pardon my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???

It was annoying - remembering all the girls I missed out on because I was scare about some DUDE. And I get mad knowing that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

You are going to look back on all the things you did and didn’t do, when the time comes that you’re on your deathbed. How painful it is to say “I haven’t approached that girl because I was scared of another guy,” or “I could have enjoyed being with so many beautiful women if only I have approached them even if they were TALKING to another guy.”

I don’t want to happen that to you.

So let’s analyze it deeply. You truly don’t understand dominance if you are seeing the other guy as more dominant.

There’s a better focus. Rather than to see yourself NOT dominant when you are comparing who is more dominant between you and the other guy.

You must first THINK like a dominant man in order to become dominant. And dominant men doesn’t care who is more dominant. So what do dominant men think about? Whatever it is that they are doing or want.

So when you see another guy talking to a group of girls. Focus on the girls instead of worrying who is the dominant between the two of you.

It’s proven to be a waste of time if I have to acknowledge other guys. Out of 10 women, 9 of them doesn’t even know the guy - they just meet him.

Or if they do, maybe ONE of the girls know him, and barely the rest know him.

It’s seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating - normally they will bring a guy that is more of a protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable when they go out on the town.

And also, if that guy IS with one of the girls, that means he’s NOT with the other girls - they are fair game.

You are NOT the alpha male by definition, if you are concerned with who’s the alpha male is. In fact, in this modern world it’s questionable whether alpha males truly exist .

Have your focus in a USEFUL place and don’t assume anything. And don’t let some random guy prevent you from enjoying YOUR LIFE!

Have you avoided having a conversation to a woman just because she was talking to another guy?

Or maybe you fear of getting embarrass if you approached a group of girls with one or two guys with them because you ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.

There are a couple of reasons why most guys are too shy in approaching women who are with other guys.

They think that the woman is “with” the guy, and assume he’s her boyfriend.

This shouldn’t be the basis of not talking to a woman. Especially in a social setting like in the bar, where people meet other people. Plus - that woman is not a “slave” of the guy or a piece of property, she’s a human being and is free to whomever she chooses to talk to.

You will extremely look confident if you approach more often a woman who is “with” a guy and this can draw out the guy’s jealous side, making him look weak and insecure.

The second reason why guys don’t approach woman who is “with” a guy points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception.

Guys assumed that the “other guy” is stronger, cooler, or somehow more powerful than they are. Men tend to be threatened by other men.

This comes from an ancient survival strategy that had been fixed into human brain.

In any given interaction, its often hard to tell who the more “dominant” person is. So when a male is confronted by another male, he doesn’t know how dominant the other guy is. The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious.

He doesn’t know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

To assumed that the guy is a threat is the safest way to play. Because guys that are too bold may have won a few confrontations, but it will take them a single mistake that can end up their game.

And then their genes were taken out of the “race” so to speak.

Usually the one that can lived long enough to survive and reproduce are those guys that played it safe and avoided confrontation.

The irony is that nowadays this hard-wired survival strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - men makes a false assumptions that will lead them to avoid approaching women unnecessarily.

The thing is, most times when you see a woman talking to another guy in the bar or club, she’s not WITH him.

They JUST MET!

I can’t tell you how many exact times I have approached a woman that is being with a guy that I thought he was “with” that guy or say a boyfriend, then only to find out that it was just a dude that approached her. Or he was just a friend or relative.

I have regrets to those times that I’ve missed so many opportunities talking to a woman just because I saw her with another guy. And this brings me to my first point:

DON’T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL EVIDENCE. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE WOMAN.

Approach a woman so that you will know what they really are. Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure jealous type and start a physical confrontation.

So be smart and wise - don’t just stick around on having a false judgment.