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How to Manage Your Time when Meeting women - Part 2

by Vin DiCarlo

Young men are taught that their urges is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There’s a syndrome that I call a “doofus dad” syndromeThere’s another societal factor going on, . In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the “dad” or “boyfriend” or “husband” is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This leads to the perception that women are “better,” and thus, their time is more valuable than yours.

If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here’s the thing - if you are giving a girl too much time, you will end up not present for most of that time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your “half-assed” attention.

I realized this after analyzing tons and tons of dates I went on with women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION to women even though I’m only giving a smaller amounts of my time.

Aside from making our time better, this creates a VAST ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

Now my girlfriends can’t get enough of me - in fact, I don’t GIVE THEM “enough.”

Women can’t be pulled to what they already have. You see, “enough” would mean, “overexposure” to me.

I don’t recommend you play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever. In fact, the proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST.

No games, just be real with her - don’t spend more time that you want.

Be a man on the go - focus on your personal goals, and enjoy whatever free time you have with women.

Now it requires that in a short span of time that you can be able to meet a lot of women, which I’ll have to take up in another newsletter.

It’s not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and “putting up with” girls, and then they are left out ALONE.

Remember that women aren’t property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.

It doesn’t mean that you can “keep” the women if you invest all your time with her.

Another point that I want to give - when you start being honest about how much time you’re going to give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you will feel it on your own. That’s ok, it just means that you have a weak focus.

You see, it usually comes from the social norm if you are following your true ways.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That’s why I set out on a journey to discover and develop the Attraction Code. It’s all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real ‘you’ emerge from within.

And no, we don’t try to impose our values or goals onto you. We think you’ll be able to do that for yourself, given the proper guidance.

Vin

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\”How To Find The Right Online Dating Service: Plus Advice\

by Pam Baldwin

Just the sound of the word love, brings most of us peace and serenity. That tiny, powerful word can mean so much to so many. The process, the courtship, the falling in love feeling, the idea that you want to share your lives together everything that love is about, makes our lives worth living.

But, how do we go about finding our best friend and soulmate? In today’s busy society, this can be a challenge. How do we have the time to look? One clear solution to this, is to try an online dating website. Can we really find true love via computer? The answer to that question is, Yes we can! Now, how to we find the right online dating service. Let’s begin.

Everyone has heard stories from friends, coworkers, family, Dr. Phil, Oprah about the ahappily ever aftera. I have experienced this joyous occasion first hand meeting men on the world wide web. My best friend who now is married with a beautiful little girl, met his wife to be by simply seeing her picture on an Online Dating Website-he just knew. He used eHarmony but there are thousands to choose from.

I have sparked your interest as well, since youare reading on. How do you know Mr/Miss Right? They are so many websites, which one do you choose? Ask your friends? Family? Which name keeps popping up in conversations, keeping in mind your budget. Many sites allow initial profile set ups for free.

Once you create your profile, you are on your way to finding love. You can upload as many photos as the website allows. As with anything in life, be as truthful as possible. Nobody wants to meet someone who in reality is 300 pounds but their photo is so outdated that they used to weigh 125. Post RECENT pictures of yourself, and enter information about your looks and personality that shows who you are and what you are looking for in your life today.

The next step, time for a date. Does this online dating service really work, is it for real? Yes. Time to trial test the dating waters even if you find yourself saying aitas been forever since Iave been out on a date! What do I do? Where do I begin?a You and someone mutually interested have chatted now, where do you go, what do you do and how do you recognize each other once youare there?

Rules for meeting. Rule number one: Always meet in a public place. Safety first, I like to use coffee shops. Theyare inexpensive, casual and usually lots of fun. Rule number two: Be yourself. Donat try to be someone youare not to try to impress someoneajust be you. Rule number three: Stay positive and lighthearted, full of funawe all like to be around a happy-go-lucky person.

Perhaps the man/woman of your dreams is just a phone call away. Online Dating Services are unique, casual and trying to believing. Isnat your future soulmate worth it? What have you got to lose? A mouseclick away and he/she could be waiting!

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Older Women Dating Younger Men: The Rise Of The Cougar!

by Saja Duarte

Cougar dating is the when a mature, sophisticated women prefers to date and be in the company of a younger man. Normally cougars are women in their 40’s,50’s and 60’s, but the trend is becoming so hot that 30 something cougars are on the rise.

More and more we see women in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s looking better than ever, and need I dare say, hotter than many of their younger counterparts. These women have the confidence and the experience to now know to make better relationship decisions then they did their first time around in their 20’s.

There was a time when young women were encouraged to date and marry older men as these men were thought to be more mature, secure and more stable. That all may still be true, but having fun was never an option for these women. After years succumbing to societies taboo’s, it was Hollywood celebrities which started to really bring cougar dating into the national eye.

These women were the mother’s and provider’s of their families, cared for the children, and took more abuse from their spouses because society had them pegged as “lesser” of a person.

In today’s society, women serve more as an equal partner than a silent one. Not only that, but there are more women who feel more comfortable being more aggressive in all aspects of life. That includes the aspect of dating and dating younger men. This type of attitude and assertivness has developed the cougar dating trend. Older women dating younger men is no longer something that is “unusual”, and to be quite honest, there are a lot of men who like this.

Cougars are confident, successful and strong women no longer hiding in the dark and saying what they feel. They have missed out on their fun because they either married young, or had children young so they may be socially still in their youthful years. These women may be in the 40’s or 50’s, but their youth makes them feel comfortable dating younger men because they feel young.

As a result, the society we live today is much more tolerant of the aspects of women dating younger men. As cougars are demonstrating, you don’t have to be a man to date a younger person. Cougar women are enjoying the benefits of being more in control, while feeling less intimidated of what men or society says they should be.

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How to Deal with Male Competition when Meeting Women-II

by Vin DiCarlo

The other important thing I want to talk about is the idea that another man can be more “dominant” than you.

The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he could beat up competitors.

But ask yourself if those same power are still existing today. Every man with a source of income can survive on his own - if you’re reading this, you probably have an access to your needs like food. You’re all set.

Plus, it’s illegal to just beat people up. My point is, physical strength is pretty much irrelevant in the modern world.

It is always to your loss if you attack another person because the police always win.

If you think about it, you are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU FOR NO REASON!

Pardon my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???

It was annoying - remembering all the girls I missed out on because I was scare about some DUDE. And I get mad knowing that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

You are going to look back on all the things you did and didn’t do, when the time comes that you’re on your deathbed. How painful it is to say “I haven’t approached that girl because I was scared of another guy,” or “I could have enjoyed being with so many beautiful women if only I have approached them even if they were TALKING to another guy.”

I don’t want to happen that to you.

So let’s analyze it deeply. You truly don’t understand dominance if you are seeing the other guy as more dominant.

There’s a better focus. Rather than to see yourself NOT dominant when you are comparing who is more dominant between you and the other guy.

You must first THINK like a dominant man in order to become dominant. And dominant men doesn’t care who is more dominant. So what do dominant men think about? Whatever it is that they are doing or want.

So when you see another guy talking to a group of girls. Focus on the girls instead of worrying who is the dominant between the two of you.

It’s proven to be a waste of time if I have to acknowledge other guys. Out of 10 women, 9 of them doesn’t even know the guy - they just meet him.

Or if they do, maybe ONE of the girls know him, and barely the rest know him.

It’s seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating - normally they will bring a guy that is more of a protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable when they go out on the town.

And also, if that guy IS with one of the girls, that means he’s NOT with the other girls - they are fair game.

You are NOT the alpha male by definition, if you are concerned with who’s the alpha male is. In fact, in this modern world it’s questionable whether alpha males truly exist .

Have your focus in a USEFUL place and don’t assume anything. And don’t let some random guy prevent you from enjoying YOUR LIFE!

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Does it Feel like WORK Meeting Women? - Part II

by Vin DiCarlo

There are three reasons for this.

First, being socially proactive may be new to you.

I recall when I first started lifting weights, I didn’t have upper pectoral muscles - the muscle at the top of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest look big.

Although I have but it was so small and weak and it took me three weeks to notice them. I was incredibly sore and could barely move my arms every time I worked them out.

And then I reached the point where the muscle was developed that I could handle heavy weight without all the fatigue and soreness. Same as in your mind.

Developing your new neuro-pathways will take time. So with the level of your skills, you need to push yourself harder from day-to-day.

Another reason you may feel social fatigue is because you think there’s too much to do or learn when meeting women.

Actually this is more on having an overwhelmed feeling and has somewhat a little different from “fatigue.”

One way that can frazzle your mind is when you are overwhelmed by something. And this can lead to some sort of discouragement, exhaustion and depression. It’s like your body saying “Whew, enough for this much work, I’m quitting before I can even begin”

This will hold you back from DOING ANYTHING. I suffered from this kind of feeling when I started putting a lot of my theories on paper. I looked at my notes and felt like I was looking at one of those huge, complex physics equations.

It was discouraging to think that I had to do almost all the needed things just to get a good quality of women.

The last reason why you feel socially exhausted is when you spend much mental energy and focus on stuff that isn’t helpful to pick-up.

99 percent of men gets it wrong when it comes to attracting women. The thing is, the woman usually can’t tell, because most men after suffering from a few harsh rejections learn to hide their inner “stuff.”

But this doesn’t deny the truth that when the average guy is attracted to a woman, he exerts his effort and mental energy on trying to impress the woman, or figure out if she likes him.

As what we have seen and heard in the media, from our parents and friends - generally it lets us know that man’s role is to IMPRESS the woman and in return a woman will sleep with you.

Ridiculous!

I hate seeing an advertisement of a guy that bumbling around a cute girl trying to impress her, even though he looks like a fool while the girl giggles like she’s better than him because she’s a girl.

Ok enough ranting… the point is that most guys are screwed when it comes to being in control of their dating lives.

But everything will absolutely change if the guy will only takes time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to attraction.

You need to OPTIMIZE YOUR MIND and body to function at the highest level when interacting with women, because that’s what’s truly attractive…

A GUY AT HIS BEST.

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How to Deal with Male Competition when Meeting Women-I

by Vin DiCarlo

Have you avoided having a conversation to a woman just because she was talking to another guy?

Or maybe you fear of getting embarrass if you approached a group of girls with one or two guys with them because you ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.

There are a couple of reasons why most guys are too shy in approaching women who are with other guys.

They think that the woman is “with” the guy, and assume he’s her boyfriend.

This shouldn’t be the basis of not talking to a woman. Especially in a social setting like in the bar, where people meet other people. Plus - that woman is not a “slave” of the guy or a piece of property, she’s a human being and is free to whomever she chooses to talk to.

You will extremely look confident if you approach more often a woman who is “with” a guy and this can draw out the guy’s jealous side, making him look weak and insecure.

The second reason why guys don’t approach woman who is “with” a guy points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception.

Guys assumed that the “other guy” is stronger, cooler, or somehow more powerful than they are. Men tend to be threatened by other men.

This comes from an ancient survival strategy that had been fixed into human brain.

In any given interaction, its often hard to tell who the more “dominant” person is. So when a male is confronted by another male, he doesn’t know how dominant the other guy is. The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious.

He doesn’t know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

To assumed that the guy is a threat is the safest way to play. Because guys that are too bold may have won a few confrontations, but it will take them a single mistake that can end up their game.

And then their genes were taken out of the “race” so to speak.

Usually the one that can lived long enough to survive and reproduce are those guys that played it safe and avoided confrontation.

The irony is that nowadays this hard-wired survival strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - men makes a false assumptions that will lead them to avoid approaching women unnecessarily.

The thing is, most times when you see a woman talking to another guy in the bar or club, she’s not WITH him.

They JUST MET!

I can’t tell you how many exact times I have approached a woman that is being with a guy that I thought he was “with” that guy or say a boyfriend, then only to find out that it was just a dude that approached her. Or he was just a friend or relative.

I have regrets to those times that I’ve missed so many opportunities talking to a woman just because I saw her with another guy. And this brings me to my first point:

DON’T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL EVIDENCE. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE WOMAN.

Approach a woman so that you will know what they really are. Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure jealous type and start a physical confrontation.

So be smart and wise - don’t just stick around on having a false judgment.

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Finding Your Love - Russian Matchmaking Or Self Searching?

by David Smythe

A very good place to search for your love or marriage is Russia. Russian matchmaking services provide modest and sexy women and also can help you to plan your first date.

There are several scams in Russia that you need to look out for. Scams are growing at high rates all over the country. Criminals are trying to get your credit card information to use for their own needs. How do you identify the real from the fake? Several matchmaking services are requiring a fee to join their communities. With the fee, you will have access to the women’s email addresses and unlimited correspondence to translation services and a description of the Russian culture.

During the sign up process, you will be asked to include information about your age, sexual orientation, annual income and employment position. You will also be asked what type of relationship you are looking for whether it be friendship, dating, long term or marriage. You might also be asked to prove that you are single. This can be a problem if you are married and looking for an open minded individual or if you are going through a divorce.

Be aware of anything that sounds suspicious. It is safer to use an alternative method of payment such as paypal or check. If you have paid by credit card, as soon as you believe you have become a victim of a scam, cancel your payment transaction as soon as possible with your credit card company. If you feel that the matchmaking services are unsafe and you would rather go another route, why not first try to find a Russian woman yourself. It is simple enough to do.

Do a search for free dating sites on the internet. One thing you will definitely find is that women are real and you will not be asked for any money to look at their profiles or even get in contact with them. Dating websites are very easy to access and navigate. They have versions in English and other languages. Information and advice on how to contact the women, ask for a first date or just simply get to know them will be available from the professionals! You are able to say anything or ask any questions. Once you have found a Russian woman that you would like to get to know, you will be able to develop a friendship on the phone or in person.

Now matter which option you choose, to prevent being scammed you should follow a few rules. If you are asked for money or the conversation revolves around money, you should back away fast. It would seem that this woman is just looking for cash only and will probably disappear once she gets it.

According to Russian customs, a huge age gap in relationships as well as marriage is a no. Therefore, you will need to keep away from such people or find out why they want to make conversations with you.

There are few happenings where in the women who have families but who are searching for wealthy foreigners or who want to travel to US, just be aware of these women. Suppose money is asked from you so that the lady can travel to your home town to meet you in the United States, be careful.

These are just a few warning signs to watch out for. If it sounds suspicious, it probably is. Be safe. A background check may be the safest option and it can be done for as little as $140.

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Finding the Right Lady Through Russian Matchmaking

by David Smythe

Try meeting a Russian model if you want a change in your dull and boring love life. A huge number of matchmakers are working hard to provide their users with the sexiest women they come across.

If you find that many women are turning you down at home, and your friends are going out and meeting these wonderfully sexy exotic girlfriends, why don’t you try finding someone abroad as well?

These women who are found in the Russia are well educated besides being beautiful. The only problem may be communication. This problem is also reduced to a large extent as these girls do understand English to some level and are also capable of speaking English at the basic level.

The younger the woman is, the more likely that they are able to speak English. It is a very large country and you are certain to meet at least one woman who you can fall completely in love with, with or without the language.

Most of the women are interested in finding someone abroad because they are looking for someone different as well. They look for a man who is attractive, has somewhat of a wealth to him, as well as brains, wisdom, humor, and kindness. They cannot find these kinds of men in Russia, so they look elsewhere for him. Mostly they do look in Western Countries such as the United Kingdom or America because along with finding a great man, they are also looking to make their own life more exciting.

Going through a Russian matchmaker saves time because you know what you need from a woman. If you are looking for a sexy lady then you sure can find one there. Men will get thousands of letters from women that are looking for their soul mate, most of them gorgeous and smart. Some do not have email addresses however, because Russia is a poorer country than most, and the Internet is considered to be a luxury. You can still do your searches online, and get online correspondence, but they prefer to use the romantic paper letters they are used to.

Matchmakers also have a good management of time. They advise the men on coming all the way to Russia to meet the woman instead of inviting the girls over to their home town. This is a way of showing respect. Besides, they also organize the whole tour and will make sure that everything is alright for you. They will be taking care of everything including rental cars, plane tickets, personal assistants and also hotel accommodations.

You should make sure you meet the right kind of consultant as you will need to share the whole of your life with them. You will be never laughed at by your professional agents regarding your interests and requests as they are only there to help you find a woman who can make you happy. You will need to supply them with your personal information so that they can find a woman who is compatible with you.

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What Not To Ask the Russian Brides

by David Smythe

Subsequent to the meeting with your bride, many men tend to wonder why such a ravishing beauty is still single particularly if she has crossed her 30’s.this has led to a serious doubt in the minds of men when they open a website to find a Russian bride, as to whether the profiles are actually real ones. What adds to more of their suspicion is that these women are very well educated and beautiful too.

Russian women have fantastic bodies, deep eyes, natural charm and rare intelligence and many foreigners find them incredibly sexy. The different culture they offer causes a fantastic explosion of emotions, curiosity, and amazement. Now that you have passed the period of selecting a woman that you are interested in, and you have made up your mind as to who you want to date, you need a few pieces of advice on how to keep her. You don’t want to scare her off with offensive behavior or inappropriate language.

Most of the Russian women have been employed as models or dancers or actresses prior to their marriage and without a doubt they are astonishingly beautiful. They surely know their worth with regards to their looks and not many of them take it over as an advantage when it comes to their relationships. They are naturally modest and they favor drawing a line between their private and social life.

In case they have decided not to carry on with their lucrative career and have reorganised their priorities and want to settle down, they would not want to discuss their professional life. They feel that you may feel jealous and think that you might not value them as much now as you did then. You should be sensitive enough not to pry into their professional life if they are unwilling to talk about it.

Ladies also know what it means to be sexy and desired by many men. At the same time, they often get sick of all the rude offers they get to have sex for money. Local celebrities are not as big as the Hollywood stars, but they know the pressure of always being in the focus of the media. After a few unsuccessful affairs they have learned how to identify true feelings from fake lovers. You can not even imagine how many Russian men are interested only in the woman for their looks and beauty, and not in the person that they are.

The next major issue is alcohol. Though you may have a wrong impression about these ladies that they do not mind men who drink, which you must have formulated in your minds after watching movies, it is false. Russian women are happier with guys who do not drink. This is because the local men of Russia have are habitual to extreme boozing which ticks them off.

These lovely ladies have already faced the wrath of men who drink through their brothers and fathers. And, they do not want the same to pass on to their children. They would prefer their husbands being soft rather than showing their aggression on the family after a few pegs.

Women realise that chronic alcoholism is a national malaise and choose not to think about it. Just about every family has at least chronic one alcoholic and eventhought the majority of them are not bad, the women prefer not to tak about this to their partners. They are afraid that it will disgust their partners who would be turned away by that part of their life.

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Dating A Russian Woman- Where And How

by David Smythe

You would not have failed to notice the most attractive features of a Russian woman. They are elegant, charming, and slim, and always seem to be smiling. They win your heart with their laughter and beauty. Some people have said that dating a Russian is like being blessed by the heavens.

The modern Russian woman is sexy and well educated. They take good care of their health and body, and make good companions. Due to their terrific genes and extremely positive attitude, they are always beautiful and young looking. When you spot the woman you wish to be with, you should sweep her away and take her for a romantic dinner. However, finding the woman of your dreams is a challenge, although, one that is worth the effort.

The arrival of the perfect moment is extremely elementary in matchmaking. In general, Russian women are unpretentious, shy and modest, but at times they are capable of becoming bold women and irresistible opponents. How your date progresses depends largely, if not entirely, on where you have begun.

A cool way to meet your dream Russian woman is when she has come on a vacation to your country. When abroad, these women are extremely frank regarding anyone who is interested in them. Commonly they tend to travel alone or with a girl pal when they seek to find the man of their dreams.

If you ask around, you will learn that dating Russian women who are on vacation without a family or relative is rather easy, and is a terrific way of starting a new relationship. They love to flirt and seduce. When women are alone on vacation, this is their main aim, so it is not very difficult to date a woman from Russia. All they want is to meet the perfect man who can give them all the love they need.

Other way to date a Russian lady is by holidaying in Russia. If you are on a job trip, or on a leisure trip just to find your lady love, chances are there that you might meet her at a restaurant having dinner alone. When in their country, dating her could be a slightly difficult task as many people may know her there.

They can initially be dismayed of gossip or opinions of other people. Russian women fancy foreigners but they might be afraid about what others have to say about it. If you are restrained and sophisticated, there is a high probability of you winning over her emotionally.

You can also connect to a Russian woman using a dating website. If you have already gone through such a website, you would know that there are a large number of Russian women who have their profiles in them. Very often they register with such websites just to improve their English and other foreign languages while some of them may really be looking for a date or a long term relationship which might include marriage. One more fact to be kept in mind is the distance. You must be ready to make certain sacrifices if you are planning to get committed in such long term relationships.

The fact is, you may flirt and be attracted to someone online but if you go to Russia to visit them, or they come to you, it is risky. You may find they act or even look different then they do online. Just try to keep an open mind and make sure that you chat with the woman for a considerable amount of time before suddenly jetting off to see her. This should keep you from finding out that the woman was just playing a game with your heart, and isn’t really the woman you expected her to be.

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