411 Bliss

Young men are taught that their urges is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There’s a syndrome that I call a “doofus dad” syndromeThere’s another societal factor going on, . In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the “dad” or “boyfriend” or “husband” is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This leads to the perception that women are “better,” and thus, their time is more valuable than yours.

If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here’s the thing - if you are giving a girl too much time, you will end up not present for most of that time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your “half-assed” attention.

I realized this after analyzing tons and tons of dates I went on with women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION to women even though I’m only giving a smaller amounts of my time.

Aside from making our time better, this creates a VAST ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

Now my girlfriends can’t get enough of me - in fact, I don’t GIVE THEM “enough.”

Women can’t be pulled to what they already have. You see, “enough” would mean, “overexposure” to me.

I don’t recommend you play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever. In fact, the proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST.

No games, just be real with her - don’t spend more time that you want.

Be a man on the go - focus on your personal goals, and enjoy whatever free time you have with women.

Now it requires that in a short span of time that you can be able to meet a lot of women, which I’ll have to take up in another newsletter.

It’s not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and “putting up with” girls, and then they are left out ALONE.

Remember that women aren’t property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.

It doesn’t mean that you can “keep” the women if you invest all your time with her.

Another point that I want to give - when you start being honest about how much time you’re going to give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you will feel it on your own. That’s ok, it just means that you have a weak focus.

You see, it usually comes from the social norm if you are following your true ways.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That’s why I set out on a journey to discover and develop the Attraction Code. It’s all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real ‘you’ emerge from within.

And no, we don’t try to impose our values or goals onto you. We think you’ll be able to do that for yourself, given the proper guidance.

Vin

There are three reasons for this.

First, being socially proactive may be new to you.

I recall when I first started lifting weights, I didn’t have upper pectoral muscles - the muscle at the top of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest look big.

Although I have but it was so small and weak and it took me three weeks to notice them. I was incredibly sore and could barely move my arms every time I worked them out.

And then I reached the point where the muscle was developed that I could handle heavy weight without all the fatigue and soreness. Same as in your mind.

Developing your new neuro-pathways will take time. So with the level of your skills, you need to push yourself harder from day-to-day.

Another reason you may feel social fatigue is because you think there’s too much to do or learn when meeting women.

Actually this is more on having an overwhelmed feeling and has somewhat a little different from “fatigue.”

One way that can frazzle your mind is when you are overwhelmed by something. And this can lead to some sort of discouragement, exhaustion and depression. It’s like your body saying “Whew, enough for this much work, I’m quitting before I can even begin”

This will hold you back from DOING ANYTHING. I suffered from this kind of feeling when I started putting a lot of my theories on paper. I looked at my notes and felt like I was looking at one of those huge, complex physics equations.

It was discouraging to think that I had to do almost all the needed things just to get a good quality of women.

The last reason why you feel socially exhausted is when you spend much mental energy and focus on stuff that isn’t helpful to pick-up.

99 percent of men gets it wrong when it comes to attracting women. The thing is, the woman usually can’t tell, because most men after suffering from a few harsh rejections learn to hide their inner “stuff.”

But this doesn’t deny the truth that when the average guy is attracted to a woman, he exerts his effort and mental energy on trying to impress the woman, or figure out if she likes him.

As what we have seen and heard in the media, from our parents and friends - generally it lets us know that man’s role is to IMPRESS the woman and in return a woman will sleep with you.

Ridiculous!

I hate seeing an advertisement of a guy that bumbling around a cute girl trying to impress her, even though he looks like a fool while the girl giggles like she’s better than him because she’s a girl.

Ok enough ranting… the point is that most guys are screwed when it comes to being in control of their dating lives.

But everything will absolutely change if the guy will only takes time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to attraction.

You need to OPTIMIZE YOUR MIND and body to function at the highest level when interacting with women, because that’s what’s truly attractive…

A GUY AT HIS BEST.

There’s one thing you need to know when going for a one-night stand - You cannot always bring home the hottest girl in the place.

You can get a solid number from her, but whether or not a woman is open to going home with a guy on a particular night varies widely.

But there are lots of horny women that are open to get physically fast and wants to get laid that same day or night. All you have to do is know how to spot them in any situation whether it is a day or night or in the club, bar and park.

Some of the few things that you should look for are on the way how they dressed up and on the way how they put some make-up. Many women exerts a lot of hard work just to look beautiful. And you know there is a reason for it.

They want to be approached. This of course, isn’t always true, but is generally the case.

I also look for women who are being loud and animated. They are subconsciously looking for attention from men.

Lastly, another good prospect are woman that are looking around the room more than the other girls that she’s with. Also a group of two or three women all standing around with blank expressions, scoping the room are another prospect.

They are basically putting themselves out there, waiting for someone to approach them.

Now you have to take this in mind — Avoid running your clever routines into full-stream and your cocky frame control stuff when approaching those women.

You have to let them know that you are interested in meeting them, A simple “hey ladies, you all look great tonight. Special occasion?” is enough. Its just have to be light, warming and social.

You should not openly discuss to the woman that you are looking to take her home and get her into bed. Because, if you talk about that, you’re putting a woman to a point where is to agree to implicitly bang with you.

Or also, build sensual tension with her, as we discuss heavily in our workshops.

This is against her “rules” and will force her to keep you at a distance. You’re also going to need logistical information, so that you can figure out how to get her back to your place when the time comes.

The real key to all this is subtracting any overt sensual intention, and not trying to pick her up.

You must have the willingness to control the situation and knows how to enjoy while having the escalation in the right way.

This is how it will works although it may sound that counter intuitive.

You have to trust that women wants to get in bed, and that a lot of the women in the venue wants to lay NOW.

Some won’t, but some will, and that’s why it’s key that you get a sense of what to look for, and how to proceed.

You don’t want to invest a bunch of time with the wrong girl, or worse, to pick the RIGHT girl, and then mess it up after a lengthy interaction.

That’s a HUGE waste of time.

There’s one thing you need to know when going for a one-night stand - You cannot always bring home the hottest girl in the place.

Bringing a girl home doesn’t based on whether she is open or not in going home with a guy, sure maybe you can her number but it varies widely on particular night.

However, in any bar, club, or even a day-time situation, there are LOTS of horny women who would be open to getting down with you that same day or night. You just have to know how to spot these women.

The things that I look in spotting them are in the way how they dressed, how much make-up they put on their face and other things that relates to how they look physically. Remember that there is a reason why women exert a lot of effort in order to look beautiful.

The reason is they want to be approached. Although it isn’t always true but is generally the case.

I also look for women who are being loud and animated. They are subconsciously looking for attention from men.

Lastly, another good prospect are woman that are looking around the room more than the other girls that she’s with. Also a group of two or three women all standing around with blank expressions, scoping the room are another prospect.

These women are obviously making themselves out there, waiting to be notice by men.

Now when you approach, take it easy - don’t go in full-steam running your clever routines and your cocky frame control stuff.

You have to let them know that you are interested in meeting them, A simple “hey ladies, you all look great tonight. Special occasion?” is enough. Its just have to be light, warming and social.

The key here is not to openly discuss getting in sensual or that you are looking to take her home. You see, if you talk about that, you’ll put her on the spot and make her agree to bang with you, implicitly.

Instead you want to build sensual tension, as we discuss heavily in our workshops.

This will be against a woman’s “rules” and she’ll definitely be keeping distance from you. And you really need a logistic information to know how you can get her back to your place.

The real key to all this is subtracting any overt sensual intention, and not trying to pick her up.

You have to be willing to let go of controlling the situation, and just enjoy yourself, while escalating appropriately.

Although it may seem as counter intuitive, but this is how it works.

You have to believe that women wants to have sex and a lot of women in the place wants to have a fast getting laid down.

Some will and some won’t, and what you should know is to figure out and proceed to get them.

You don’t want to put a lot of effort and time with the wrong girl or to pick the right girl and then mess it up after a very long interaction.

It will just be a waste of time.