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Online Dating Tips for Women - Catch Him With Your Profile!

by Sarah Love

Have you ever considered online dating? Finding love online is easier than ever these days, as more and more people seek mates online. Christian Carter has a lot of foolproof advice for women who choose this route to a relationship. First of all, there are a lot of advantages to be found in online dating.

For starters, when you are hunting for a man online, you have the distinct advantage of being able to screen carefully. In other words, you are in control of the situation. Additionally, you can attract the exact sort of man you want by putting some time and effort into a profile that will attract him.

When creating a profile, you need to keep in mind that there are thousands of other women out there doing the same thing, so yours needs to stand out somehow. Reading other women’s profiles can give you a good idea of what to avoid. Storytelling is a great way to differentiate yourself from the other ladies online. Instead of describing yourself, tell a story that does it for you. This will make you stand out.

Next, you need to set up an email account that is not traceable to you or your personal email account. This will help you to organize your responses and not clutter up your regular inbox. It is also an added safeguard against creepy internet stalkers- not a likely situation, but not unheard of, either.

As important as what you say is what kind of photo you post. Men are visually stimulated even more than women, so you need to make sure your photo sends the right message. Play up your best features, without being dishonest. Don’t focus on your cleavage or legs, unless you want to screen out a bunch of creeps who are only interested in one thing. Post a photo that says something about who you are and what you like, as well as showing off your good side.

What you write in your profile is going to tell a man what you are like in real life, so take care to avoid negativity. Be positive, and keep it fresh and light. Write about things you find funny, places you love, and what you do for a good time. These things will excite a guy by showing him your fun side, and the things you could enjoy together.

Don’t trash talk your ex, or other women. This just makes you look insecure and unappealing, and is likely to scare off Mister Right.

Don’t get discouraged if you don’t hit the jackpot right away. Just keep these tips in mind, and sit back and laugh as the responses come rolling in.

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Finding Love Online - How to Get Noticed

by Sarah Love

Dating in real life is difficult enough, but how about dating online? Have you ever considered trying your hand at finding love online? Maybe you should. As Christian Carter will tell you, there are a lot of advantages for women when it comes to online dating.

Unlike in real life, online you can do extensive screening of a large number of men, by skimming their profiles. This gives you a lot of control that does not exist face-to-face. What’s more, you can create a profile that will attract the type of man you are looking for, so you don’t have to waste time with men that are wrong for you.

Your online profile needs to stand out from the crowd, if you want to be noticed. Most profiles are predictable and uninteresting- just read a few to see for yourself. One way to make yourself stand apart is to illustrate your personality by telling stories instead of describing yourself. This will show that you are creative, and will be a refreshing change from the usual run-of-the-mill profile.

One of the first things you will want to do when you set up your profile is to set up an email account that is not in any way linked to your personal email account. This will help you to keep track of your responses, as well as keeping respondents an arm’s length away from your personal account. This will also make it easy for you to delete your account, need be.

Perhaps the most important thing in your profile, sadly, is your profile picture. Let’s face it, men are highly visually oriented creatures, so this needs to be good. Your picture should celebrate your best features without being dishonest. For instance, don’t post a picture of yourself 40 pounds ago. Also, make sure you keep it classy. Too much skin, or too sexy a picture will probably generate the kind of attention you don’t want.

Keep it light and easy, and above all, positive. Don’t list things you hate. Instead, focus on the things you love. Write about what makes you laugh, what you do for fun, and how you want to share that with the right guy. These are the sorts of things that make men want to contact you right off the bat.

Don’t trash talk your ex, or other women. This just makes you look insecure and unappealing, and is likely to scare off Mister Right.

These simple tips are sure to get you more responses than you know what to do with. Just be patient, and have fun as you make your way towards finding love online.

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When You Are Doing All the Relationship Work

by Sarah Love

At one point or another, most women find themselves in a relationship where he is withdrawing and they are the ones doing everything. Calling all the time, planning everything, driving, even initiating the affection or intimacy? It’s a pretty bad feeling when you are the one doing all the work.

Soon enough, your fun relationship turns into a lot of work, and you might start to get hostile or needy. You are not getting what you need, and you are overcompensating for that. “Overfunctioning” is the term Rori Raye has coined for this problem, and I think it fits.

That means that you, as a woman, take up the slack for everything in the relationship that is wrong or that he is not doing. The thing is, men see the world differently than women do - and most men don’t actually like it when we do things for them, when we baby them and take care of them. They want to be the masculine one - not feminized by being babied.

This usually starts out with the opposite intentions - you want to prove that you are NOT needy - you are strong and capable and do NOT need a man to take care of you. So you start taking charge. You start correcting him. And it goes on from there.

Doing this, we take over the masculine roll in the relationship, which kills the attraction completely. The attraction dies because he wants YOU to be the woman, and you want HIM to be the man, but by trying to prove how strong and independent you are - you have taken that roll from him, and doused the fire.

I am not saying that men like a woman to be a brainless looby. By far - no. Men DO like strong, independent women- who will still let them be the MAN in the relationship. Otherwise, it’s a masculine to masculine relationship - and for most men - that means you are more of a BUDDY than a girlfriend.

Changing this is not impossible - and - it just may save your relationship. First of all - start being aware of what you are feeling when you do these things and why you are doing them. This will help you realize when you are about to turn into the “guy” and you can step back and remain the woman in the relationship.

Then, start noticing when you are feeling any sort of negative emotion. You need to pay attention to this for two reasons. One - because you may take it out on others or two - because you may attempt to make yourself feel better by using attention seeking behavior afterwards. This may be seen as immature or needy to a man.

Doing this with everyone will help you see for certain when you are going to use negative behavior with your man. Maybe that is telling him that the way he is doing something is not right, or trying to take control of a situation. Either way, you can stop the behavior and begin to repair your relationship.

Also start taking your cues from his body language. Your man may not tell you in so many words when you are doing something that takes away his masculine part of your relationship, but his body language will. Pay attention and adjust your behavior accordingly.

By doing these things, allowing him to be the man and paying attention to the cues, you can begin shaping your relationship into the relationship that you want it to be.