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Five Signs Your Partner Is Cheating

by Pauline Stradlen

If you are suspicious that your husband may be cheating on you, let him make as many mistakes as possible as these are all ammunition for you. Do not confront him until you have sufficient evidence to prove your suspicions. You’ll find below some of the most important signs that your partner is cheating on you.

1. 9 out of 10 cheaters do so in their own bed at some point in the relationship. If you suspect your husband of cheating on you in your own bed, make it a special way, then check every day - if you husband has been using it without you, chances are he won’t have made it correctly.

2. Enlist one of your girlfriends to help. Make sure it is one that he doesn’t know, then get her to hit on him and have her record it. The easiest way to do this is to have her call you answering service just before she starts talking to him, and then you can have the proof on call so to speak.

3. Your husband will definitely take advantage if he is left alone for a weekend. So to set another trap tell him that you will be away all weekend, give him precise times for when you are leaving and when you will be back. Then say goodbye and find a good spot where you’ll be able to watch your house, all you have to do now is wait and see.

4. Pay attention to all financial transactions that your husband carries out. Check the credit card statements, bank withdrawals, and receipts, make sure you check for any unusual transactions. These can be obvious such as motel room receipts or gift shops from which you have never received a gift. However, he may be more cunning than this, so check all cash withdrawals, your husband may pay for things with cash to avoid leaving receipts that you might find. If he is withdrawing sums of money at the same time each week or month, then there is a chance he is using it to pay for a room with his other lover.

5. Monitor both his cell phone and your home phone. If you have access to his cell phone bill, watch for repeated calls or calls of long duration and the times. Watch how he uses his phone, does he answer it then move out of your earshot, does he take it everywhere with him, including the bathroom. Note whether returned calls to you are extremely delayed without verified reasons, or if he always turns off his cell phone when he’s with you.

If you feel the need to confront your husband but do not have concrete evidence, try bluffing him. You could try saying something like, I know you’ve been cheating on me and I’ll give you one chance to confess. He may break down and confess everything, but he is just as likely to continue lying.

I can assure you that your husband will screw up sooner or later you will need to be patient, but remain watchful. An easy way to do this is to hire a PI, however this can be expensive and may not be necessary. My advice is that you follow the above steps, keep a watchful eye for any of these signs, and keep notes of any evidence.

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How To Catch Your Cheating Husband

by Pauline Stradlen

Write down everything you find that you think might be even slightly incriminating. Don’t think that you will be able to remember everything, you are under enough stress as it is without having to keep all the information in your mind.

You must keep track of all suspicious activities, including the dates and times. An example of this would be if your husband goes to the gym, yet when he gets back his towel is neither wet not smelly. You will be able to track patterns in his behaviour when you have all the information written down.

It is important that you pay extremely close attention to all the things your husband says or does on a day-to-day basis, and make notes about it. You may think we have noticed a new or modified behaviour one day, but you are not really sure of yourself. If you are keeping note of all this you will be 100% sure that you are correct.

It is entirely up to you to set boundaries on how far you want to look into your husband’s private life. Many women believe that certain boundaries should not be crossed, but you need to decide what you feel comfortable doing. If your husband is cheating on you, you need to remember that the end will justify the means.

Your phone bill is one of the most important things that you should keep track of, if you notice numbers popping up on a regular basis that you don’t recognize, you should make note of them and run them through an online service to get information on the owner. It is a very simple mistake that your husband could make to call his new girlfriend on your phone, but is highly possible that he has done it.

When you finally track down that tangible, physical evidence, take note of exactly how and where you found it. Ensure that you don’t leave any evidence of your investigation behind, make copies of all important paper work or emails and leave the originals as you found them. You do not want to arouse your husbands suspicions until you are ready to confront him. Keep all you evidence in a safe place preferably out of the house.

If you think you are ready to confront your husband, and hands all the evidence you need, make sure you plan it properly. Have all the accusations and evidence in front of you, make notes and follow them. You must be sure that your case is watertight at this point, don’t confront him until you are confident he is cheating. This will be a very emotional time for both of you, and you should be ready for him to continue lying. You must be strong and you must be prepared.

Your intuition is a very powerful tool, remember to always follow it and it will lead you to the truth.

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